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    • CommentTimeNov 22nd 2011
    The judge is an asshole who believes divorce is an abomination? Because that's the only thing I can think of that would lead to someone making that decision.
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    Jesus. What's her new religion, that she feels she has to force it on you?
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    Man, walking around a prison after midnight is creepy by itself, and then you hear noises where there shouldn't be noises, and you know it's not anything but it creeps you out anyways and then you check anyways and it's still nothing but you got goosebumps anyway and then you sit down and every little thing after that creeps you out and then you're jumpy for the rest of the night.
    • CommentAuthorMrMonk
    • CommentTimeNov 23rd 2011
    I went out at lunchtime and found that someone had keyed my car. I bought that car new exactly one year ago last Sunday. I saved up specifically for the down payment. I just had it washed and detailed this past weekend. I am concerned about how long it is taking me to process this.
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    Cat Vincent:

    I'm... what... how... Shit, consider my mind boggled. That should be grounds for some kind of witness protection program, let alone divorce...
    • CommentTimeNov 23rd 2011
    Thanksgiving tomorrow. Dad has been bad sick since late October & we've had to take extra special care of him. I read up on kidney disease and everything points to it: sudden and acute urgency, swollen feet, lethargy and discomfort. Though a lot of it overlaps with the misery of arthritis. What I didn't know is the "silent period" of kidney disease is 30 years of damage accumulating in the kidneys as pain killers like Celebrex or NSAIDs like ibuprofen are used to reduce the pain leave toxins behind. Here we figured the kidneys should be happy he stopped drinking over a dozen years ago.

    The gout and arthritis flare ups have always been scary. But the bitch about them is they may make a person wish for death but they only bring excrutiating pain. Organ failure, on the other hand, hurts, fucks you up, and finally (but I don't know how quickly) will kill you.

    So I'm watching my dad suffer.

    There's other stuff I'm trying to do but it's like white noise in the background. Who even cares about it?
      CommentAuthorCat Vincent
    • CommentTimeNov 23rd 2011 edited
    Thanks for the kind thoughts & bafflement, guys.

    @Greasemonkey - said 'new religion' is basically ayahuasca shamanism. After getting into it 5 years ago it just took over her life & she pretty much rejects any belief that doesn't involve necking organic DMT/MAOI on a weekly basis - mixed with bastardised Catholic ritual. Horrible thing is, I gave her complete support when she got into this, as it helped with all her other issues... and she turned into a fundamentalist.

    (Now don't get me wrong - I'm not against drug use or the ritualization thereof. I do object when I'm told the only way I can get well/be a good person/get respect from my wife of 14 fucking years is if I join in - as her student/patient, of course.)
    • CommentTimeNov 23rd 2011
    Jesus, Cat. That's some bullshit.
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    Some bullshit indeed. People should keep their damned religion to themselves unless asked.
    • CommentTimeNov 23rd 2011
    @Cat Vincent

    Mate that judge's decision is just... ridiculous. I had no idea divorce law was that complex... what a fucking hassle man. Keep your chin up and struggle on!

    @ Will Ellwood

    It's really, really nice to hear from you again Will. Commiserations about the writer's block. My own opinion - give the lit theory a rest for a bit, see if that helps. It's just my opinion, but I think there is nothing more instructive for writing fiction than reading the fiction you love, or immersing yourself in nonfiction for inspiration. Try switching it up for a bit, see what happens. I've suffered horrible periods of block and self-doubt (often when I was happy in my personal life, weirdly) - they only ever clear by giving myself space, and taking the pressure off. I've read your early stuff - it is SOLID. You will break through this. Keep trying, but let the pace set itself. Also, and I'm not kidding, if you haven't, definitely read Stephen King's 'On Writing.' I have the Kindle edition - I'll gladly email it to you on request. It's no-nonsense, block-breaking, practical advice about how to start, keep going, revise and finish. I'm no huge King fan, but the man knows his way around a manuscript. I've found it incredibly helpful and very motivating. And if I can offer any kind of help in terms of a person to hash this over with, let me know. I'm an email away. Big love bro!


    Sucks about the panic attack... I haven't had one (touch wood) in years, but they're no joke. Hope you're staying calm as possible and avoiding stress where you can. For the record, I'm about 60% through your manuscript and it is solid, really entertaining stuff that does clever, commercially viable things. That is hard to pull off man. Be fucking proud! What''s more there are sections which are just mind-blowingly, rock and roll AWESOME. You and Aaron have created something unique and thrilling. I'm enjoying the hell out of it. I'll have that intro, and some notes on the MS, very soon - just finishing off this term's Uni work, which will be all done by Friday. Soon come.

    As for me...

    I'm doing well right now. Balancing lots of different kinds of work (a novel, Uni assignments, music projects, development of my sites, and a bunch of other side stuff) and not stressing out too much... I have a tendency towards paranoia and panic when I feel entropy invading my systems, but I'm keeping it at bay with ridiculous work loads. Perhaps this will lead to an ulcer in later life? Right now I don't care. I love to work. I love to be busy.

    I don't often follow this rule but I reckon... When things are good, say so, recognise it, share it. And when you need help, ask for it. One thing I love about Whitechapel is how everybody feels they can express / vent here in a non-judgemental way. I read this thread every month and think about you all, out there in the ether... Keep on keeping on people. Your bravery and the care you show each other is something to be fiercely proud of.

    I fucking love you guys. And no, I haven't taken Ecstasy.... today. I'm not even drunk. So there.
    • CommentAuthorMrMonk
    • CommentTimeNov 23rd 2011
    I learned today that someone I knew from years back jumped in front of a train. Never knew him well, but his is one more face that I won't see again.

    One of these days I will have something to write in the Vile Hugging Thread, but today is not that day.
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    MrMonk: Sorry for your friend.
      CommentAuthormister hex
    • CommentTimeNov 23rd 2011
    @ MrMonk - sorry to hear that, mate.

    @ Cat - sorry to hear that, mate.

    I am more depressed than I've been in more than a decade. If I get through this, I will basically be invincible.

    It's a big "if".
    • CommentTimeNov 23rd 2011
    My landlord's having me evicted. I'm going with it, but I'm also going to take him for every penny he's got on the way out.

    Hey Patrick, wanna be roomies?
      CommentAuthormister hex
    • CommentTimeNov 23rd 2011
    @ allana - I'd rather murder your landlord. No offense to your fine self but to paraphrase Nelson Muntz - Gotta murder SOMEBODY."

    I mean "why, yes, I'd love to be your roomie."
    • CommentTimeNov 23rd 2011
    It's not an either/or.
    • CommentAuthorflecky
    • CommentTimeNov 23rd 2011
    I'm exhausted and quite mad...
    • CommentAuthorflecky
    • CommentTimeNov 24th 2011
    ...yet now i'm not.

    It's fooking amazing what a power nap can do if your skull stuff is melting.And melt it will...
    • CommentAuthorflecky
    • CommentTimeNov 24th 2011
    @ mister hex:Hang in there mate.Objectively speaking,from full darkside experience,it will get better.Even though at the time the despair may say it won't.Fuck that bastard.
    I hope you feel better soon.
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    @CatVincent I had no idea that divorces were dismissed on "not enough grounds", I thought rolling into your solicitors pissed and saying you'd like your wife canned would do the trick since about 1990, Still, that's a shit, and I hope it gets resolved soon.