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    • CommentAuthorArgos
    • CommentTimeJul 20th 2012 edited
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    But I gave up dairy T__T i.e. no can do buttermilk.
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    #doublestandard

    Ten years ago, I had an exgf who physically attacked me. I refrained from retaliating. I ended up with a swollen lip and scratches across my face. Of all the mutual friends we had, only one actually took my side. Everyone else simply kept out of it. Had she been a man, the reaction would have been drastically different. The double standard is atrocious.

    I think that keeping strict standards of professionalism, refusing to accept sexually agressive behavior and explaining to others how and why you have such personal barriers and choose to no longer work with some people might put some those in your industry off for the time being, but in the long run you will earn yourself a far more respectful client base.
    • CommentAuthorKosmopolit
    • CommentTimeJul 24th 2012
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    #double standard

    20-odd years ago my brother narrowly escaped prosecution for punching his ex-wife in the face.

    It helped that she'd run at him holding a large rock over head while screaming "I'll kill you!".

    The police did ask why he hadn't resorted to a less violent form of defense and he explained that he was hampered by the cast on his arm - which his ex-wife had broken a week earlier when she attacked him with a hammer while he slept.

    Don't get me wrong, men are far morely than women to be the initiator in domestic violence - but there are wexceptions.
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      CommentAuthorOsmosis
    • CommentTimeJul 24th 2012
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    #newupdateoldquestion

    A while back I asked about removing bluetac stains from walls, in advance of moving out of a flat and hoping for my deposit back. The Whitechapel consensus was sugar soap. I did my bit; moved out; came back the day after to scrub and clean and hoover. I'm pleased to say I got my deposit back in full, and I'm now living in a lovely new house with friendly, social-life-enjoying housemates, and will never have to see my odd ex-housemate or my scumbag landlord again! Thanks Whitechapel!
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      CommentAuthorcurb
    • CommentTimeJul 25th 2012
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    Congratulations! The elusive full return does exist then!
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      CommentAuthorNygaard
    • CommentTimeJul 25th 2012 edited
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    #Leavingwithoutbeingadick

    Might help to know that this stuff (the "gay agenda" babble) are a species of conspiracy theory. This weird family of ideas generally does not go very deep. They're the result of various social echo chambers - such as a religious discussion group - amplifying the work of rumour, hearsay and professional shit-stirrers. They tend to be quite shocking to people from outside the echo chamber, who have not been habituated to the particular brand of bullshit the people who are "in on the secret" have trained themselves to believe and tell each other. "Groupthink" is a good google keyword for the phenomenon :)

    It seems to be a pattern that people pick bits and pieces of these mutant belief structures up like dogs with ticks whenever they gather in small groups; when they do not feel that they have much of a personal stake on the issue, everyone else seems to believe the same thing, and their skills in critical thinking and thorough examination of the implicature of statements are a bit rusty. That people quote these crazy things does not usually indicate that they have internalized, or even thought much about, the actual core beliefs of the ideaplex.

    In other words, they do not really believe that gay people are inherently inferior to other people and organizing to drag everyone down to their level, or, to take different conspiracism, that all Mexicans and Catholics are in on a conspiracy to outbreed US protestants. They do not actually believe that muslims are secretly trying to create a caliphate in Europe, and that white people have to take up arms and form a violent resistance. Conspiracy theories ultimately really do imply these batshit insane things. People who've stuck with and invested in their crazyness for a while, and connected the dots from the more innocent periphery beliefs, really do believe this vile paranoid shit about other people. Some of them even act on it. Conspiracy theories look innocent enough on the surface - at least to people already inclined to dislike the idea of, say, homosexuality, or worry about immigration. It's usually well-educated, reasonably sane middle class people who go off on this kind of mental adventure. But the core beliefs, the things you have to believe about the world for the theory to be consistent with observed reality, are always a shambles of ad-hoc rationalizations wrapped around a core of undiluted psychosis.

    While the general elements of a conspiracy theory (an enemy, a secret pact, a "magic bullet" etc.) seem almost completely interchangeable, the structure of conspiracist belief has remained remarkably consistent over several centuries. So there are conspiracy theories about almost everything - every celebrity death for the past 60 years, about pearl harbour, about aliens - about aircraft condensation trails, for crap's sake - but the patterns are always similar, just fill in the blanks. Worryingly, a lot of these ideas appear to be deliberately fabricated, by people who want to further political goals (such as birthers) or make money (Holy Blood/DaVinci code, DIana). I'd be more inclined to see these people as pitiful victims than dangerous fanatics.

    I wouldn't be too confronting; people who have made an untenable and ultimately ridiculous position part of their social identity can react very badly to having their bubble popped.
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    #Leavingwithoutbeingadick.

    UPDATE: Told Diana that I was leaving due to gas issues (each meeting was a 45 minute drive for me) and left it at that. She was reasonably upset, but that's all that happened. I didn't want to confront with the issues, since we still have to work together. It's just odd that a in one minute a person seems reasonable and the next they're not. Very cult like, and I think Nygaard said it best as groupthink. But that's a discussion for another time.

    Thank you all for your comments and suggestions.
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    #blogname

    So now that I'm out of work and made of nothing but time, I am mentally revisiting a thought I had a while back about starting up a video game blog. While previously I was going to call it 'In the Trenches' as it was going to be from the perspective of someone in one of the lowest rungs of the industry (i.e. Me), now that's not really usable because A. The Penny Arcade guys have their 'Trenches' comic about video game testers, and B. I'm (hopefully temporarily) not actually in the industry anymore.

    So now I'm stuck on what the hell to call it, so I'm looking for ideas or suggestions.
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      CommentAuthortaphead
    • CommentTimeJul 31st 2012
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    #blogname

    A variation of "Toad Farm", as in (I am but a) mushroom + Mario/geek culture + farm? Test lab nerd reference?
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    #blogname

    "Level One Game Designer" or the like?
    • CommentAuthorFlabyo
    • CommentTimeAug 1st 2012
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    #blogname - 'I love the smell of pizza in the morning'
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      CommentAuthorFinagle
    • CommentTimeAug 2nd 2012
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    #paypal

    I have a friend who wishes to accept Paypal payments for services in the U.K. She is concerned about her personal Information being shared. It seems to me that you can take out a PayPal business account under a pseudonymous business name, and have your real name and address hidden from the recipient.

    Can anyone verify if this is the case, and whether PayPal cares if it is a properly registered U.K. Business?
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    #paypal

    If you hide this info your business is not operating legally within the EU. Sorry. You can be xx trading as yy though (the accepted format for a sole trader). You must have full contact details available somewhere on your website. This need not be a home address/number, but it must be an address you can be contacted through.

    As for 'properly registered' we don't have those requirements unless there are drugs, medical devices, or financial services involved (a few more,but that's the gist). Or is your friend proposing to set up as a Ltd company? There are different rules for that :-)

    Lots of info out there - contact business link or local Trading Standards for specifics, some info on the CAB website as well. Beware of anyone who wants cash for business advice though!
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    #XL crashing

    In my day job we use Microsoft XL extensively. Because we have to e-mail documents to multiple wholesale customers who have different computer set-ups, we use the Windows 95/XP or 2003/2007 XL formats as our internal working formats.

    We have a persistent problem with XL crashing. It's intermittent (of course) and there's no real explanation as to why it happens just one of those "Microsoft XL encountered a problem and needs to close") worse it does this repeatedly crashes, restarts recovery, crashes, restarts. Usually this happens when we're using the "sort" or "filter" functions on large spreadsheet files (as in 12,000 lines by about 8 rows of data.)

    We're losing a LOT of work when this happens (maybe once a month on average.) We've upgraded the computer, added extra RAM, upgraded to Windows 7 and nothing seems to prevent this happening.

    Any idea what the problem is?

    I'm thinking it may be lack of forward compatibility between different versions of XL but any help would be appreciated.
    • CommentAuthorSteerpike
    • CommentTimeAug 11th 2012 edited
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    #XL crashing

    Just to be able to rule things out, does work use a lot of macros or add-ins?
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    #XL Crashing

    Also, what version of MS Office are you using? 2007, 2010? 64-bit or 32-bit? 12,000 lines is a fuckload of data for one sheet (I assume it's on one sheet and not 12,000 total for the workbook), and if you're doing it on a 32-bit system (or 32-bit Office on 64-bit Win7) that could very well be the issue.

    Have you tried other spreadsheet software like OpenOffice Calc or Google Spreadsheets? They both export to Excel 97-2003 format. I'm going to sound like a Google shill, but Google Spreadsheets is fucking awesome. Especially if you have a lot of people internally that make changes to the spreadsheet before you send it out to your clients, since everybody can edit it simultaneously and see what changes are being by who in real-time, and it saves and archives after every change, so if you need to revert you can.
    • CommentAuthorKosmopolit
    • CommentTimeAug 15th 2012
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    Thanks for replying to an old thread guys.

    There are no macros involved and the problem shows up with other smaller files as well.

    We are using Office 2010. We use OpenOffice for some tasks but there are some things that are just much easier to do in XL and we've noticed some glitches in Openoffice that are as bad or worse - for example occasionally copying absolute values when its supposed to be copying equations.

    I'll take a look at Google spreadsheet. We currently use Dropbox to sync files across different machiens and different offices but we're running into problems with that as well.