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    • CommentTimeAug 17th 2012
    BROOKLYN! Will respond with better instructions when I've slept.
    • CommentTimeAug 18th 2012 edited

    I've been toying with an idea of a podcast for a couple of years, and now it feels like the idea has matured. It would be one with someone to interview in almost every episode, and I'm trying to figure out a microphone setup that would be handy for this. Now, mind you, I'm fucking broke, so I'm really on a budget here. I'm thinking two tabletop microphones here, something cheap, but the question is what would be the best way to connect them to a computer. I have access to Final Cut's Soundtrack and such sound editing and recording tools, but the microphone question is something I still need to figure out (I'll be recording this stuff with my MacBook Pro). Any suggestions?

    ...right, ended up ordering this, since the reasons and excuses to get one went over the limit with this project:
    • CommentAuthorNil
    • CommentTimeAug 18th 2012

    OK, I suspect I'm being incredibly stupid here. Recently changed my main OS back to Linux (Linux Mint 13 in this case), and I need to zip multiple (sometimes hundreds / thousands) of single files into individual zip archives. On Windows, I would just use WinRAR and select "Put each file in separate archive". "Ark", which seems to be the default archive manager, doesn't appear to include this option.

    I've got a command line solution mostly figured out, but I've run up against a problem. So far, what I'm doing is (for example):

    find . -iname "*.dsk" -exec zip {}.zip {} \;

    This works in that I get my single zip archives. However, each one of these is now named "" - what I need is "".

    Any ideas on how I can exclude the original file extension from the zip filename?
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    Might be simplest to just rename them at the end. I'm not sure of the syntax (been a while), but there's gotta be a fairly simple recipe to strip out the extra extension using "mv".
    • CommentAuthorNil
    • CommentTimeAug 18th 2012

    Doh. Like I said, I suspected I was being incredibly stupid.

    rename s/.dsk// *.zip works perfectly.

    • CommentTimeAug 22nd 2012 edited

    So...someone I really care about has sort of gone back in to his depressive state. He's going to be seeking help next week, but I'm just...I don't really know what I can do to be there for him. Two weeks and a bit ago he was happy, talkative everything and now...not so much. there a resource out there I can look to or someone who has been depressed maybe enlighten me on the process (understanding, of course, that each case is different). I just want to better understand what he's going through as well as not worry myself to a point where I can be considered depressed as well.
    • CommentTimeAug 22nd 2012
    #depression fallout.
    Not sure if this would be specifically relevant but I watched Stephen Fry's fascinating documentary "The secret life of the manic depressive" today and found it very interesting.
    part 1
    part 2
    • CommentAuthorRenThing
    • CommentTimeAug 22nd 2012

    There are a number of burlesque events happening in SF. Do you have specific dates of when you'll be in the city?
    • CommentAuthorflecky
    • CommentTimeAug 22nd 2012 edited
    #depression fallout

    I can only speak for myself, but when I'm going through a bad spell of depression I find it almost an ordeal to answer the phone. Even replying to a text can be hard. Unless I'm talking to someone who understands the illness (or maybe even suffers from it), I really don't want to tell people what I'm going through as this can open me up to some real nasty emotions. I guess it's that thing about feeling judged or criticized; there's nothing worse than when people try to "fix" you, or when they try to undermine the way you feel by telling you to cheer-up or shake-out of depression, even if it is well intended. Depending where I'm at, I automatically respond with self-pity or extreme irritability and rage when people come on to me like that. I've fallen out with people who I thought cared about my emotions, when in hindsight they were just trying to control them.

    Isolation can be a symptom of depression, and sometimes (not all the time,though) it just has to run it's course. Nowadays, I find that when I intentionally isolate, 2-3 days with myself usually becomes the pattern before I tend to need people and can handle them.

    Anyway, I reckon Stephen Fry can word it a lot better than I ever could. I'll have to watch that^documentary :)
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    It's hard, as everyone's different as you say, but from personal experience, it does help knowing that people are there for you if you need them - they don't have to necessarily DO anything. And one thing is really good - he knows what it is and is seeking help. Before I knew I had a depressive disorder (probably for 10 years before it was diagnosed) I caused a hell of a lot of pain to my partner, and total bewilderment from my family and colleagues because I'd go virtually catatonic, be unable to respond or answer or think and not understand at all what was going on. My poor father spent hours with me, trying to talk to me and I couldn't articulate at all how I felt or why I couldn't see any future in anything.

    And often it could strike just when things were going really well - ie soon into a new relationship, or after periods of heavy work - last year, I got sick just after two weeks when everything was wonderful for me; no apparent cause. And if that's the case for him, it may well be incredibly confusing.

    I think Flecky put it really well - it can hurt to answer the phone, to feel under pressure to speak to someone when you genuinely can't think of a single word to say - or you feel irrationally angry or emotional and scared you'll lash out - and that can happen if someone is too pushy or needs reassurances that you just can't give. Again, everyone's different, but light and noise can literally hurt, and someone constantly saying 'is it something I said… why can't you just snap out of it…' etc etc isn't going to end well .

    But if you know that someone understands that and isn't pressuring you, it can be very soothing. The most powerful thing for me, and something that helped more than most other things was when my parents switched from being uber-rational Spocks to an understanding that this was an illness and that I wasn't just being obstinate.

    So I'd say, just be there, be there gently, without prejudice or pressure.

    My partner is something of an angel for putting up with me, and that's something I always try and remember when I find it hard to put up with her…

    And good luck to you, feel free to message me on FB if you think I can offer anything useful.
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    We're in SF from the 12th to the 16th of September.
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    I've had a pretty similar experience to JP by the sounds of it, only with added periods of hyperactivity/insomnia/mindless rage just to really keep things interesting.

    The absolute worst thing I can do when I'm sick is get angry with myself over symptoms, such as finding it hard to answer the phone or responding badly to people who are (however badly) trying to help. Shit happens. I'm sick, I have symptoms. It's like getting mad with myself for coughing if I have a cold - sure, that's damn selfish, I might make someone else sick, but the only thing I can do about it is to keep to myself as much as possible until it blows over. That and remembering that it does blow over. No point in getting arsey with myself because it has happened at all. Learning to observe my illness rather than getting too involved in it has been useful. See, if I can manage that, it really takes the edge off it - "Hey fuck, I really feel totally like shit and need to be left alone for a week or two, and this is really bad timing, damn - oh well, let it go by to the keeper, do the little things to help myself heal, wait for it to pass," is much less likely to feed back into suicidal self-loathing than "Oh no not again why am I always like this fuck I'm worthless LOOK NOW I'VE GONE AND FREAKED MY FAMILY OUT AGAIN FUCKING GREAT..." &c. I'm sure y'all know the drill.

    You're a survivor, Flecky. Just remember that. I was looking at the holes in my CV this week and wondering how to explain them to officialdom. I know what I've lived through, and what I've achieved looks pretty good to me in light of it. I mean, I know people who have achieved a lot more than me but... OK, it's a landscape, right? So there's some guys, they're way up there at the summit, they've had a relaxing walk up some meadowed slopes to that point with maybe time for a picnic on the way. Me, to try to get to the same point, I've had to climb up the north face of fucking Everest in a blizzard, naked. Sure, I'm not up there yet but goddamn it I'm still climbing so don't be putting me out of the picture. Any day on the top side of the grass is a day with possibilities. Considering where I started I'm doing better than those guys with the picnic lunch can ever imagine.

    Then there's always someone who has had to swim up from the bottom of the Mariana Trench before they can even start the climb - basically no matter what they've actually done today, you've got to admire the great big brass balls that it took to do it.

    So yeah, just keep swimming man, and never forget that of us badarse fuckers who have done it the hard way, you're the baddest.
    • CommentAuthorflecky
    • CommentTimeAug 23rd 2012

    Thanks, Kay. I got a great deal from reading that, especially what you said about observing an illness. I love the climbing up Everest thing, too. Nice one, mate.
    • CommentTimeAug 23rd 2012

    Flecky, JP and Kay, thanks guys. That really helps me out. It's been...weird. Not helping that I have to have kidney surgery and have to be off my anti-anxiety meds before, so my reaction, while fairly controlled, has probably not been great. But yes, he's getting in control of it and that's good. My main hope is that he gets himself better.

    Again, thank you for your side on things. You have no idea how much it helped to read those. :)
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    A couple San Francisco notions....

    - Comic stores with weird/cool/small press stuff that I wouldn't necessarily find elsewhere.

    Mission Comics + Art is located in the Mission District, has a wide assortment of mainstream and small press books, and even has a little art gallery in the back of the store. Leef, the store's owner/operator, is a good guy. Stop in and say, "Hi!"

    - Cool bars.
    Depends upon your definition of "cool". Ergo, presented without comment....

    Bacchus Kirk
    Top of the Mark
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    Glad I could help a bit. You guys, and particularly Flecky, have made me feel a whole lot less alone in my Hell-pit when I've been under the gun a few times in the last couple of years. Pleased that I could give a little back. I want you all to remember that even if nobody responds when you vent, even if you feel like you're just spraying vile acid into the void, it might well be helping someone else keep fighting. They might not be able to say so at that particular time, but knowing they're not alone down there does help.

    Oldhat, you're doing a lot just by giving a shit. JP and Flecky nailed it pretty much, so long as you're not expecting to "fix" your friend, just being around showing some care is pretty well the absolute best thing you can do. All I'd add is that giving him a helping hand in forgiving himself and reminding him that the illness is a) not his fault, b) temporary and c) not all of who he is are generally great things to do as well. Rock on you good thing.
      CommentAuthorIan Mayor
    • CommentTimeAug 26th 2012

    Hi guys, I'm trying to find a wedding reading for myself and my fiance and having limited success (and, right now, sorely lacking inspiration)

    Does anyone here know of a book passage, a poem, song lyrics, whatever... something beautiful and true.

    You don't know us, so that makes it harder, but anything you can think of would really help.
    • CommentAuthorKosmopolit
    • CommentTimeAug 26th 2012
    I suffer from major ongoing depression.

    What other people have said is spot-on. Beyond ensuring your friend knows that you care and are available if they want to reach out, there's very little you can do.

    If my friends go much beyond that I end up interpreting it as them trivializing my feelings.
    • CommentTimeAug 26th 2012 edited
    #Send IOS Audio to Android

    Hey all,

    I need a simple audio recorder for iPad that can produce an audio file that can be played directly on an Android device (Xperia P) without any special software. Ideally simple sharing by email is included.

    ETA: Found it. Ultimate Voice Recorder Pro supports WAV format recording and sharing direct to Dropbox or emai.
    • CommentTimeAug 27th 2012

    While all that was said above is true and awesome, I just want to add: Look out for yourself and your own mental health, too.

    It can be really easy to get wrapped up in trying to fill a need that can't be filled. You can try to be there to listen. You can try to provide support. You can push all your own needs into the background doing so. Ultimately, it is on the depressed person to accept help, sooner or later, and it may be a painful realization that you might have to pull back if they aren't willing to do that.

    I had a good friend and ex lover who had gone to law school several years ago after an amicable breakup. She felt really lonely and isolated once she got there, and fell into depression. She took to calling me and my current girlfriend at all hours of the night, calls which devolved into her just crying and saying "I can't do it, I just want to die, I'm a failure, this was all a mistake, I just want to die.".

    After a long conversation and follow up emails, we wound up cutting her off unless she went to get help. It was the right thing to do. She wound up attending my wedding, as a successful lawyer now.

    I'm not saying "tough love," I am not saying kick depressed people in the ass so they get over it, not saying throw them into the deep end of the pool so they sink or swim. I am saying that even if you care for someone, depression doesn't give someone an excuse for emotional blackmail and threats and sucking down your care and attention to the point where you yourself fall into depression. Then who's there for you?