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      CommentAuthormister hex
    • CommentTimeAug 30th 2014
    @flecksfriend - you're more than welcome here. We're all a wee bit mad (which is kind of an understatement in society, never mind 'round these parts) but we're also interesting, in a good way.

    Many friendships and discussions have been a'borned here.

    We're all just time machines that can only go into the future a second at a time.
    • CommentAuthorArgos
    • CommentTimeAug 30th 2014
    Flecky left you with WC, and Flecky left us with you. Welcome.
    • CommentAuthorroadscum
    • CommentTimeAug 30th 2014
    @flecksfriend - yes, more than welcome. Howl, scream, sob, whimper, anything. Make a noise. Anything is better than silence. Anything.
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    I continue to be numb - I've had a few tears but now numb ..... memories are returning at a steady pace

    still waiting toxicology. And I'm still trying to get the courage to call someone I know from the rehab we both went to who will be able to let me know about any kind of funeral arrangements.

    i think a watching of Magnolia or broke back mountain are in order - just a couple of Flecky's fave films I have. also check out the drama series Damages - Flecky really enjoyed it.

    ....... Laters
    • CommentAuthoricelandbob
    • CommentTimeSep 2nd 2014 edited
    My wife is obsessed with Damages. I watched a few episodes and I can understand why Flecky would like it. I think you'll like it too
  2.  (11411.66)

    I loved damages too, I should have been more clear in my post that I have seen the whole series once already !
  3.  (11411.67)
    I think I've tracked Flecky's dad down. I've emailed an address i think is his. fingers crossed I get a reply ...
      CommentAuthormister hex
    • CommentTimeSep 3rd 2014
    Let us know, mate.
  4.  (11411.69)
    thanks to my partner, who could not see me distressed going round in circles anymore ( which I tend to do now and again!) I now know where Flecky will be taken to when the coroner releases his body. My partner rang the county coroner's office on my behalf ( silly me I hadn't thought of that ) Flecky's body will be taken to the funeral home not far from my flat in my home town, despite the fact that Flecky died in the city 8 miles away ( I think only because the funeral directors have the contract with the county coroner to be the appointed funeral director) The funeral directors are a good family run firm and actually performed the funeral for my Partner's wife Emma ( she died of skin cancer, they had been married for 20 years ) the funeral directors informed me that the family are taking care of things via email. I was already aware that Flecky's sister was in Canada, his father in Australia and his poorly mum is still in Newcastle. They are going to inform the family that I have enquired and will inform me of the family's wishes regarding funeral arrangements, visiting, contact with the family etc.

    I'm still taking it all in .....
    • CommentTimeSep 4th 2014
    @Flecksfriend, you're a good man. Flecky was lucky to have you in his life. Thanks for keeping us up to date.
  5.  (11411.71)
    Aw damn. Been away for a while and only just got the news.

    You were one of the good ones Flecky.
  6.  (11411.72)
    really sad I cannot attend Flecky's cremation. family's wishes. but at the moment I am under the impression that none of his family will attend either (none are travelling from Newcastle, Canada or aus) but I will confirm this when I know the facts not 2nd hand info. if you kinda 'got' Flecky I think you too would understand the actual cremation bit woulda been what was important to him after he was gone, and to be honest me too. would have liked a funeral pyre for him personally ( but then really thinking about it ... in his more 'sick' and darker moments of hilarious ranting he'd probably like to have been blown to smithereens - sorry that was for Flecky ! )

    some of his friends, from the city he was living in post rehab, are holding an independent service of some kind on Thursday. which I have been invited to in a very warm and encouraging way - reassuring me it is not an NA meeting of any kind ( don't get me wrong I have nothing at all against any recovery programme, it's just not the one for me oh and I do hate all the gossip that goes with it ) anyway I'm so grateful of an opportunity to pay my deepest respects for Flecky and see some folks from rehab and recovery circles that share my loss of Flecky.

    I'm scared of going .... very frightened of how it will make me feel .... but a friend really would like me to go and I think I might regret not going. Hopefully I can also be of some comfort to others in some way . . . or not ( as i would like to share some words of his but i do not know how it will be received, although Flecky was always very direct and honest with everyone but i will check with a few of his closest first before i ask to read it )
  7.  (11411.73)
    Flecky was cremated this morning in the city he was in post rehab. None of his family attended and they kept all the details under wraps so no one else could attend. The funeral directors informed me after the event at lunchtime.

    meanwhile I saw this in today's online guardian :

    inc our very own freakangels : )

    not one for serendipity usually but I might allow myself the indulgence just this once

    laters with some words on funerals I have from Flecky
    • CommentTimeSep 9th 2014
    Thanks for keeping us up to date, @flecksfriend! It's greatly appreciated!
    • CommentTimeSep 9th 2014
    Ya.. thanks for telling us Friend. Farewell, Fleck.
    • CommentTimeOct 8th 2014 edited
    after leaving here, i check back every 6 months or so just to see if its still around

    this is what i find. im a bit late, but it feels so sad for one of the WC family who i used to talk to to be gone.

    so sad, my feelings to all of the friends and family. everyone deserves to be missed.

    stay strong everyone, the world is a terrible place sometimes and i know a lot of us struggle every single damn day
  8.  (11411.77)
    Haven't been here in ages.

    Aw, Flecky.

    I don't have much to say, other than You are missed, mate.

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